You know, how every now and then, someone says there should be a dislike button on Facebook?
And we all heartily agree, because it’s usually in reference to some really unlikeable thing, like ‘I just got stabbed in the eye with a fork?’
Well I’m going on the record to say, that I’m glad there is no dislike button, and I hope there never is!
You know that little video clip I made?
If you’re awesome, you would have watched it, and if you didn’t, don’t worry, you still can.
Anyway, someone ‘disliked’ it!
I know!
Talk about ridiculously rude!
The fact that made it all the more rude, is that You Tube clips are rated with a percentage based on likes and dislikes. Prior to the dislike, I was sitting on 100%.
(Ok that was totally me liking my own clip, but whatever.)
Now I’m at 50%
That’s a pretty dramatic drop.
After feeling completely devastated at my inability to conquer You Tube by storm, I moved on, and proceeded to search for clips informing me of the most effective way to sew pleats.
I know; my life is so scintillating.
In my adventures, I came across a less than shining video, where, shock horror, the person actually refused to iron her fabric.
For a person that irons pretty much everything except for underwear and sheets, this was a big no no. People, if your going to sew, you need to press your fabric!
Anyway, after watching the clip, I was almost ready to hit the dislike button; my finger hovered over the mouse pad, ready, willing and able.
And then I stopped myself.
The horror, and the heart break of receiving a dislike is awful; I couldn’t wish that on anyone else, despite their ironing preferences.
So I moved on to the next clip and left well enough alone.
Now, it occurred to me, afterwards, that had there not been a dislike button, I never would have felt inclined to press it. I would have left, and that would have been it.
It was only because the option to dislike was available, that I even considered it.
Which makes me glad that Facebook, at this stage, has not gone along those lines.
Now a dislike button would be extremely helpful in the case when someone tells you they have Gastro and it’s coming out of both ends, but I’m guessing it would be a lot less appreciated when used after posting a picture of a new hairstyle.
Or an engagement announcement.
Or that you’ve just had a baby.
As a blogger, with a Facebook page, I know just how hard it is to get ‘likes’ on a post link. I would be gutted if instead I got several dislikes, because someone didn’t like my writing, or heaven forbid, because of an auto correct faux pas!
And what about the times when I share something that I think is ridiculously funny, only to find out that not only do I haves random sense of humour that few can relate too, but I also am being ostracized for it!
Really, it comes down to the old adage; if you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all.
Or, in this day and age, ‘if you don’t like it, just ignore it and move on.’
One thing, however, that I do really like, are bloggers.
Tuesday bloggers.
IBOT bloggers to be more precise.
And I love announcing a new blogger of the Mo’ which is what I get to do today!
This blogger is seriously so funny, every time I see she has a new post, I have to read it, even if I don’t really have the time. Perhaps it’s because she has the same random sense of humour, or that I just find sarcasm so appealing, I don’t know, but she makes me giggle, and has also made my newly updated blog roll.
It’s Michelle from BlunderMum. (Even the name makes me smile!)
Make sure you check her out; she’s worth it. (And I really hope she hasn’t done some kind of serious, Emo post today just to contradict me. Cause that would not be cool.)
Should the Facebook like button change so that you can just double tap like you do on Istagram? (I kinda love that!)
Why haven’t you liked my video clip?
Have you read Blundermum’s blog? Do you want to stalk her now?
Also captcha is not a commenters friend. I think we can also legitimately ‘dislike’ that.
I so agree with you, Jess! Very glad that there’s no dislike button on FB! Or if you don’t like it, just click the cross button on the top left of your screen!
Great choice on Michelle! Love her blog. Always guaranteed of a giggle each time I visit her.
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I dislike the dislike button. But I love Blundermum. I’m kinda hoping she did go all emo today because that would make me giggle.
Rachel x
Rachel from Redcliffe Style recently posted..I must resist….
Funny that she chose a more serious topic that day! Where is that face palm button when you need it!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Congratulations Blundermum! I’ve been following her blog for a while now and it is fab! Even if there was a dislike button, the one on her blog would be covered in cobwebs. Speaking of, I’m definitely opposed to the dislike button. There’s enough negativity in the online world… why make it easier for the haters?
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Go Blundermum!!
x
My ego would never cope with a dislike button!!! I’d disappear into my bedroom and only come out after all my tears and sniffles had dried if I ever experienced it! So I vote no, so I can remain in my relative ignorance of those who dis me.
carmen recently posted..Confession time.
Yes, ignorance is bliss isn’t it! I go all soul searchy when someone unlikes my page, I couldn’t cope with anything else!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Wow, blogger of the Mo, thanks! But oh no, I DID go all emo and serious today! It’s been scheduled since Friday night, saved up for IBOT. I’ll make up for it with some irreverent nonsense tomorrow, I promise. I can’t be serious too long, I might get neck wrinkles.
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Sorry! I should have given you notice so you could have been classically irreverent!
Seems like everyone already loves you anyway though
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
That is just awful Jess. Probably some pre pubescent girl mortified because she was all pimply made worse by the fact you had made such an improvement to that terrible song by those that she no doubt adores.
I am with you on keeping the dislike button at bay. There is is enough negativity in the world with out dislike buttons. People would definitely abuse such a power just to hurt other’s feelings.
Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses.
Oh and yep I hate captcha!
Oh and really good choice with the Blogger of the Mo, she is seriously awesome
Rhianna recently posted..Raising a champion is no easy feat
That’s what I thought; some prepubescent chick who is determined to marry one of them, and going all stalker, groupie evil.
I guess I’ll forgive her. I would have been the same about Hanson at that age!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
I would adore a face palm button! But just a metaphorical one.
Congratulations, BlunderMum.
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I had never thought of it from this perspective but you are absolutely bang on the money. Totally agree – no dislike button is a good thing. Face palm definitely still has potential though!! Yay for Blundermum!! xx
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I am no way wanting a dislike.. it could cause more upsets on facebook than already happen!!
I cant believe someone disliked your video.. rudeheads!!
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Rude heads indeed!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
I agree – getting a “dislike” when I dream of getting more “likes” would be devastating – although I would definitely like to “dislike” disqus!
Perhaps we need to add a little line above the dislike button… “If you really feel so strongly about this that you want to press “dislike”, perhaps you need to get a life…”
Just a thought…
Thanks for hosting the linky again and now I’m off to like your Youtube clip!
Tonya, The Crafty Mummy recently posted..How to Change Theme Images on your Blog
I’m not a fan of disqus either!
Thanks for liking! I’m up to 80% again now
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
I have always thought a dislike would be great but now that you have thought it through more for me I think it could be terrible. I vote “no” to the dislike
i will have to stick to the 
when something could require a dislike.
Lisa @ Mummys Undeserved Blessings recently posted..Goodbye Natalie..See you in Heaven
A sad face really does say a lot!
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I like! I agree, no dislike button. I got in trouble through work for liking a comment from a past staff member. I don’t know how I liked it (I’m guessing the way you scroll on the lap top caused it) and they didn’t really believe it was an accident. Imagine the problems caused if there was a dislike button!
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OH AMEN!! the world needs more love, and less ways for haters to spread their hate. bah.
Lyndal recently posted..if its not personal, why is it happening to me?
Sometimes I do feel like there shld be a “dislike” button, but I get what you mean abt the someone disliking a FB page post. Think I wld feel so horrible too! Now that you’ve pointed it out, I’m glad they don’t have one and hopefully never will haha.
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Bahahaha! It’s all true! Sooo true!
You make me laugh Jess! I love how you take notice of the small things.
And this ironing thing you’re talking about… can you make a tute for that?
MWAH!
Happy iBOT!
xxx
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I could so make a tute for that; even vlog it! But just for you!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Oh Jess! Yeah, that would sting me too! ‘Silence’ with lack of likes is one thing, but getting confirmation with a dislike would give me a big frowny-face.
On the plus side, at least it was only one?
Fiona @ My Mummy Daze recently posted..New York, New York!
I figure we have enough negativity in life without adding a “dislike” button to Facebook…
Janet recently posted..Snooping in my Library Pt 1
OMG i could not handle the pressure if there was a dislike button too – hard enough coping with no likes on something but imagine if you looked and there were no likes and 3 dislikes – straight through the heart ouch!
Deb @ Home life simplified recently posted..When mothers return to work
I don’t think a dislike button is a good idea. I prefer people to either like or like my stuff.
Tina ~ Tina Gray {dot} Me recently posted..Personal Torture
I think those are good options Tina!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
There is enough negativity in this world without encouraging more. May there never add a dislike button. And I totally agree about Blundermum – she cracks me up.
Rachel @ The Kids Are All Right recently posted..To Sir, with Love, but I’ll never be your Facebook friend
People area cranky, negative and whingy enough without giving them a dislike button to emphasise it even more!!
Aroha @ Colours of Sunset recently posted..Dear Nicklas : 4 Years Old
There’s no need for a dislike button, no need to encourage negativity at all really. Let’s all just ‘like’ and play nice (or ignore it if you don’t like it!)
Mum of Adult Kids recently posted..Moving and cleaning go together, like peas and carrots
Now that you have said it I totally agree with you on this one. It will be devastated if I got a dislike on anything that I have posted on facebook. Not having it may teach people to walk away.
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Woo Hoo BlunderMum – love your posts
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I have gone and liked your vid Jess – if enough of us do, we can get your percentages looking a bit better
It’s at 80% now which is sooooo much better!
Thankyou!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
I couldn’t agree more.
I’ve never really wanted it. If you disagree, take the time to write some thoughtful words about why you disagree or move the fuck on. Does it really matter that the entire world doesn’t share your exact same thoughts? Isn’t that what’s great about this world. What keeps us challenging ourselves, what makes us sure about what we believe and think? That there is always an opposing, someone thinking differently, someone who can open our minds to other idea’s.
The world definitely does not need more negativity.
Miss Pink recently posted..Sharp 100 Years
Youre exactly right. If you’re not a fan, generate a thoughtful discussion, don’t just leave your negativity.
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
I am so very glad that there isn’t a dislike button. People get nasty enough on facebook without making it easy for them.
My friends and I think there should be an ‘empathise’ button. So when you post about being sick or about something bad that has happened, and ‘like’ isn’t appropriate, people can instead ‘empathise’ with you. x
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Oh I like that idea! Empathize is much better!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Oh, I don’t think a dislike button is a good idea… I would love in the sense of ‘Poo poo – poor you’ but not in the ‘I don’t like YOU’ way…
To make the ‘Like’ button work in a fair way, I would have to have sole responsibility for whether it is used correctly and quite frankly, I don’t have the time… :0)
Great post lovely! Love it!
B recently posted..Life: Yes Please or No Thanks?
Lol, I love ur blog u always crack me up
and no, I haven’t checked out her blog, but will do right now 
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I wholeheartedly agree Jess! Off to add some likes to your youtube clip! x
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Thankyou! Xxx
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
I’d use the ‘dislike’ button only for bad news… but you’re right – lately the negativity seems to have grown exponentially! Scary!
PS. Did you know there’s a stream of Vietnamese women being advertised on your blog with whom you can chat?
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Ha ha yes! Inkinkz advertises there so that I don’t have to pay $3 a month or whatever it is.
Besides, you never know who might be interested in chatting to some vietnamese women.
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Thank you for the recommendation ‘blundermum’ sounds just like my type of reading.
As for the dislike button I completely agree. But trolls and nasty people will always find a way to make their presence known, but that’s ok, it’s what makes the awesome people stand out more!
Carly recently posted..Clucky wacky me
Yes, I heartily agree!!! Dislike button gets a dislike! How many people’s feelings would be hurt? Can you imagine the teenagers? Ye gads, thank GOODNESS Facebook have the good sense to leave it well alone!
Daisy recently posted..One day you’ll look back and laugh at this…
Hey Jess, I actually blogged on a Tuesday, all out of the ordinary and stuff! I’m glad there’s no dislike button. It would be like arming the bullies and trolls with an even easier weapon to use. Like you said, got nothing good to say?, move on!
Laney @ Crash Test Mummy recently posted..The truth about being a ‘Stay At Home Mum’: Part 1
love it! especially the facepalm button
kelli recently posted..Unschool Monday
You can like photos just by pressing L
Does that help? hehehe
Yeah but you can’t do it on the iphone. The double tap would be much more convenient.
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Oh gosh I hope they’ll never come up with a dislike button! It’ll just be so mean and makes people depressed to see people disliking their stuff! You can just choose not to like it, but disliking it is another matter altogether! Thanks for pointing this out and for introducing another great blog!~
Summer recently posted..Midsummer in Sweden
I’m glad theres no dislike button… haha i love a world of denial I don’t want to know what people really think lol
tarah recently posted..My layby system.
Totally agree that a ‘dislike’ would just ruin the whoe day for someone. Sometimes better to just let the silence sit … No harm done. Unless you like you should ‘like’! Xx
Tahlia – the parenting files recently posted..easy veal slow cooker recipe
Never really thought that deeply into it but yeah would have to agree now that you have put it into perspective! I would be a bit sad if people ‘disliked’ my art – I know people would not like my stuff but would be pretty devo to log on to see 5 dislikes and 1 like hahahaha.
Will check out Blundermum
Neen recently posted..Attempt #3 at My Laundry Tub Vege Garden
This post had me smiling and chuckling under my breath (I’m holding a sleeping toddler and don’t want her to wake!). Loved your pic selection too, especially face palm. A Dislike button is like a dare and for some would be akin to sticking your hand in a flame – because you can.
Veronica @ Mixed Gems recently posted..The imprint of culture on a child
I think you werent stong enough Jess. I think what’s needed are these:
“oh what on earth was that about” button
“really? So not happening” button
“woulda coulda shoulda but you didnt” button
“talk to the hand” button.
Oh what? You didnt ask for more suggestions…OH
“who’s a silly old duffer” button required.
D x
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Ha ha Denyse!
Maybe you should send these suggestions to Facebook? Especially the silly old duffer one!
Jess@Essentially Jess recently posted..The Legend of the Dog-Cleaned Plate
Facebook can be bitchy and horrible enough without a dislike button, so I’d hate to think how much worse it would be with one.
Unfortunately with blogging we have to take the bad comments with the good, but hey that’s what the “delete” button is for right?
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