This is a post about nothing.
Yes, you read that right.
Nothing.
It’s almost pointless really, and I dare say I wouldn’t even be writing it, unless I didn’t have to write something, but it’s Tuesday and I do.
So instead, I’ll write a post about nothing.
Nothing, because everything I want to say, I can’t. Because all the words that are swirling around my head can not be shared here. Can not be put down on this place, at this time, for this audience. It wouldn’t be right.
It wouldn’t be wise.
And wisdom, well that is something I’m big on.
It’s not a common word (unless you’re talking about teeth), and it’s probably not a common practice. Wisdom goes beyond knowledge and intellect. It’s not just knowing what to do. It’s knowing when to do it, how to do it and why to do it. Or not to, depending on the situation.
Wisdom.
Such a big word.
I’m on a search for wisdom. I don’t want the words that I type here, or the words I speak in conversation, to be pointless, fruitless words.
There is a time for fluff yes. There is a time to laugh and to giggle and to write something that lifts the spirits and rejuvenates the soul.
Just as there’s a time for deep and meaningful. For inspirational posts that make me want to be better.
There’s a time to speak out; against injustice and wrong doing.
A time to declare morals and absolutes and beliefs held firmly.
A time to make movies about Doctors at the ED, because what would life be (alright what would my blog be) without it.
And there’s a time to say nothing.
To keep quiet.
To refrain from using the words that you want; from screaming the truth because let’s face it, sometimes people don’t want the truth.
And it is the Truth that I so desperately want to write about, and yet I can’t.
So instead, you get a post about nothing.
Or maybe about searching for wisdom, and generally trying to be a better person.
But mainly about nothing.
And sometimes, nothing is the best thing you can say.
Jess you’ve built this space as a place to talk about YOUR truth. It may be hard to write, it may be controversial: but we all have to say what’s in our hearts. Otherwise our blogs are no longer our own.
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True words Kim. And I will say it, eventually. Once the thoughts have settled and I now how to. But for now, this is better.
xx
Do you know what? I’ve been thinking about this (over thinker here) and because it IS your space, you can write or NOT write whatever you like. Don’t listen to me
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I hope everything’s Ok. X
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Thanks Zanni. It’s all good.
I’m just feeling contemplative.
I’m a big believer in the wisdom of silence. I’m also a believer that truth will always have its day. Hang in there, Jess.
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Thanks Grace. I think you’re spot on xx
You dont have share absolutely everything on your blog. Its a reflection of your life but it is not your life. There are some things that a best not broadcast to the world.
I truly hope that whatever problems or challenges you may be facing sort themselves out soon.
Love to you.
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Thanks. Yes not everything has to be broadcast here, but it’s hard working out what should be, and how to do that the best way. Which is kind of my headspace at the moment.
I struggle with the same thing, but there are just some things that I don’t want to share. I don’t think it makes me false, it just allows me to keep some personal things personal, and I feel that is important!! I’m sure you will figure it out! xx
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There is nothing wrong with writing nothing every now and again Jess. And your nothing has been written in your usual, well written, funny way! I wish I could write about nothing as well as you do
xx
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Ha ha! I’m sure you could Tracey. Xxx
Write your truth for yourself. Write it, and don’t publish it.
Sometimes just getting your thoughts on paper (or a Word document!) can make things feel better.
Hope everything is ok.
Mel xx
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Yes! There is a lot of truth in that. I’ve already had a good discussion with someone about it, and am feeling better already.
Thanks Mel. Xx
Very Seinfeld. Hope all is ok and whatever will pass. And good wisdom, from me, who runs off at the mouth when I shouldn’t!
Oooh Seinfeld! Im taking that as a compliment!
for me. not from me??
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Knowing and acting in the fact that it’s sometimes better to remain silent can be hard in this bloggy world. You post about nothing is a great reminder if that. And as entertaining as ever.
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Thanks Becky. We probably all need the reminder occasionally, since we bloggers are fantastic over sharers.
oh I like a bit of fluffing… pillows, doona covers.. its just gone 4am.. I am going back to bed.. I just popped in to say I do rather like your post on nothing.. it has made me think.. don’t be disheartened that your post is about nothing.. sometimes the nothingness is all we need to make us think! Reassess.. and get back to why we are all here in the first place
#teamIBOT was here to say hello! xx
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I’m impressed as ever that you get up so early to link. Or maybe that’s just your cover story. Maybe you really just wanted to fluff the pillows a bit?
Jess that sounds really tough. I think u are wise in saying nothing for the moment. Sometimes things pass or we see another perspective and the way we deliver or talk about truth becomes different too, and it becomes easier. x
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And that comment there is full of eloquent wisdom!
You’re right, sometimes the passage of time helps us to better work on how to speak our truth in a more respectful way. That’s really where I am at the moment. Trying to work out how to do that. Xxx
Oh Jess, I do hope that everything is ok. You are so right though, sometimes nothing is actually best and although dignified silence is as hard as all get out, you tend to know when something is best left unpublished.
Take special care and I’m chucking in a couple of hugs for good measure
x
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And hugs. X’s
Sometimes speaking effectively means not speaking at all. Look after yourself today
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Thanks Mel.
I think you’re right. Xx
I believe true wisdom is knowing when to stay quiet. It’s becoming more difficult to do with the wealth of communication available to us, but sometimes having restraint is far more powerful. I hope that whatever words are screaming in your head find the right place to be heard soon and you can get the release you really need xxx
Thanks Erin. I’m sure they will eventually. I’m not the ‘suffer in silence’ type.
Jess, I think your writing really shines when you write about the “Truth” but a bit of writing about nothing never hurt anyone. (I hope that makes sense).
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Total sense.
And thanks for the chat this morning. Xx
I hope everything is ok Jess, I hope you put fingers to keyboard soon and let it all out! xx
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Yes it’s all fine. Nothing major. Just thinking about life in general, and when it’s best to speak, and when it’s best not to. And sometimes the latter is far harder.
Great nothing post lovely. I love a good nothing post. I thinking is important that sometimes nothing be said. Friary wishes and butterfly kisses lovely
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Friary wishes and butterfly kisses to you too.
Jess you never seem to fail at turning Nothing into something this is why we all keep coming back. I hope everythings is ok.? xx
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Thanks Jane. Xx
Yes it’s all fine. Just thinking. Too much thinking!
My dad had some funny sayings. One was that words are like a highly strung cat. Once they are out of a cage it’s nearly impossible to control what they do and completely impossible to get them back in. Odd but sort of work in this situation
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I think I kind of love your dad!
hope youre ok Jess xx
I’m good thanks Sarah. Xxx
Jess sending hugs your way. Someone advised me similar to Mel above to write it out and not publish it and I did that over 2 months ago. This week – today- I will be writing it to share on Thursday because i decided my truth needed the light of day. I am not sure what you are sitting on but only you will know when the day comes (if it does) that it serves you better to share it than to keep it quiet. xxx
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Yes, I think you’re right. Sometimes it needs to be said, but the timing is off, or the words aren’t right.
I think that’s the place I am in the moment. I’m sure I’ll share it eventually. Just not today.
Knowing when silence is more important than words is a good example of wisdom. Sometimes thoughts need to be nurtured before they are shared.
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Exactly! Thanks Sim xx
Sometimes it is good to be silent until you really understand where you stand on something. Then it might be time to share or time to keep it in your family.
I also want to apologise for not commenting on your blog with the link up before, I just realised how to do it when the link up is live
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Thanks for the comment Eleise. Glad you worked out how to do it.
xx
“I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence; I possess knowledge and discretion.” Pro 8:12. Hope that you can find the words, and be able to write what is on your heart soon xxx
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Hope everything’s ok Jess. May you find the wisdom you need soon. Xox
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I agree sometimes is better to not say anything. Let your brain digest the thoughts first. Let the thoughts simmer before taking them out of the abstract world.
Yes, that is definitely a better way to do it than just to blurt it all out. Though blurting can be so much more satisfying!
I hear you – sometimes its hard to keep our boundaries are writers and sharers. Thinking of you lovely x
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I knew what you meant!
That auto correct!
Who knew that reading about nothing could be so interesting
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Reading between the lines, I hope everything is okay. I do know what it’s like, we have been having some “interesting” times of late with our teens, and I just can’t share, much as I want / even NEED to!!!! I still write about it, but in my journal where nobody else can see!! Honouring you as a true woman of wisdom, and sending you hugs! love, Janet xxx
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Yes Janet, having teens would definitely add a whole new level of discretionary tactics! It’s ok when they are little cause they don’t know what you’re saying, and hopefully if they ever read it, they will find it funny!
This post is almost poetic Jess. Sometimes when there is something going on that I am not able to discuss publicly I write about it anyway, and then just hang on to it like a diary entry. The process of writing is so powerful, it doesn’t necessarily matter if anyone is reading xx
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Thanks Crodie. A lot of people have suggested that and I think that’s a really good idea. Xx
I definitely think this is a post about wisdom, not about nothing. We don’t need to share every part of our soul on the webs, there needs to be stuff that stays our own. Hope you are ok xxx
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Thanks Chantal. I’m fine. Loving all the beautiful support and encouragement. Xx
Uh huh, I hear you. There are so many things I want to say, but they involve things that I don’t want friends and family to read about. My plan is to wait til the moment has passed, then post with the general ideas but none of the giveaway details, and if they piece two and two together, maybe it’s a good thing?
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Yes that’s often my way of doing it too. The passage of time can be a very helpful thing sometimes!
I totally get that – sometimes it is better to hold our thoughts until we are really sure we want to share them. I hope that whatever is going in your life is resolved soon and you can move forward.
Thanks for a great post on the value of thinking before we write !
Have the best day !
Me
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I know this feeling well. There are some things that I would desperately love to blog about but know that I shouldn’t and to do so would be wrong on many different levels and in many different ways. So I keep those things to myself. I think it does take a certain amount of wisdom to knee the difference between those thing you can and can’t its, those that you should and shouldn’t post and its not a bad thing at all. I hope whatever it is that’s on your mind, you have somewhere you can vent it if not on the blog.
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Jess, you just said everything in this post about nothing… There are subjects we just can’t blog about…
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Sometimes saying nothing will be enough for now x
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In the words of the most high gorgeousness and sayer of all kinds of swoonworthy things….
“You say it best, when you say nothing at all”
Ronan Keating
Oh, I so get this. This year has been FULL of things I can’t blog about – thus, you get fashion posts about beige! Love your work, B
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There is a time for everything and when that TRUTH is ready you will know! But I love reading everything you write Jess, even when it is NOTHING.
From reading your post and all the comments above, I think it is clear we all “get” it, that we’ve all been there with things we would love to write out but know instinctively that it’s not the right way to proceed. I’ve made a pact with myself not to talk too much about my work and there was a period a few weeks back that I really, really really needed to write about some of the things going on there. But it could never be on the blog – damn work people who read it…;) Hope you find a way to express what you need to say in the right way for you at the right time.
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For a post about nothing, you should did say something! Somethings are better left unsaid… online anyway. Hope all is ok xo
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As far as writing about nothing goes, that actually *was* full of wisdom. If your gut tells you know, you’re probably right. Either keep it quiet for now, or just keep it off the webz. No regrets. You are a smart cookie, Jess. Hope all is well in light of all this.
Your post about nothing says a lot. All the best!
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I’m not sure you can hurry wisdom along – it just comes through living and reflecting. And you do a lot of both, so you must be wise
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I hope that whatever’s swirling around in your head gets resolved. And thank you for that first cartoon – hilarious!
(And for what it’s worth, I think this post was worth writing – and not just because it’s Tuesday. x)
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Totally agree – sometimes saying nothing says so much.
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You are one wise woman Jess. Like you said, there is a time for everything – a time to be silent and a time to speak. And sometimes, people don’t want to hear the truth, but they so need to.xx
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Hey, Jerry Seinfeld built an empire on a TV show about nothing. If it’s good enough for him …
Seriously though, you are a wise woman.
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Far better to remain silent and be thought a fool, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt.
– Abraham Lincoln
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It appears I had the same affliction this week. Oh dear!
xx
I do love all your wisdom Jess… even that about nothing.
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well, sometimes silence is the best form of medicine! And silence is so very powerful xoxo
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I also agree, this is a post about the wisdom of saying nothing, not just nothing.
I think I could learn from that, both online and off!
V.
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Nothings good. Your good. Were all good with you saying nothing today.
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You clearly have a bit going on. Appreicate you still made the effort to host #IBOT today.
I hope things work out for you and you are ok. BTW for a post about nothing, you bloody wrote nothing well.
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I know what it’s like when you have nothing to write. You did a lot better than me when I have nothing
Rachel xx
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It’s ok to have nothing once in a while!
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Love Robyn’s quoted verse above too. It’ll come together, Jess. Look at IBOT. 90+ linkers. Things just sometimes take time. “Wisdom and prudence…” xx
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